I became my own primary partner. I took the time and care to understand myself more, in the way that I would have taken time and care for a partner in the past.

Half the fun of being queer is disparaging the rigid traditions that manacle society to its cishet melancholy. And yet, as a throuple, we may still like to get married someday.

Sex is a big part of non-monogamy, sure, but it’s not the only part. Connection can be so much more than physical.

It was a modern beginning. We matched on Tinder then met at a local bar where we drank enough gin to sink a ship. Summer was heating up and I was ready for anything, having finally escaped a difficult marriage. Plus, the brazen way he rested his hand on my leg beneath the table made …

Transitioning a relationship out of monogamy takes patience, transparency and hard work, and comes with the challenge of unpacking jealousy and insecurity.

Non-monogamy is commonly dismissed as deceitful and risky, while STIs are branded as the consequence of promiscuity.