Category Archive: relationships

Parenting and having a queer ‘tribe’

Our little person is co-parented. Four adults in two separate (but now kind of inter-dependent) relationships are actively involved to varying degrees at varying times in providing an abundance of love and care. We get to take turns on nappy duty, sleep deprivation, and having baby-free adult time. The next layer out involves a whole …

Queer identities and pigeonholing

“IT REALLY SURPRISES me that I’m attracted to you,” my last girlfriend told me. “I’m usually attracted to much butcher women.” The edges of my bow-tie curled up and my asymmetrical quiff flopped down over my face. I felt like a billboard for a queer subcategory. And apparently the billboard was in need of some …

The joy of polyamory

The joy of polyamory

In my first year at university, I developed a major crush on a man. He didn’t appear to return it. Seven years later, he was married with children, and I was good friends with him and his wife. He and I had dinner one night and ended up kissing. We weren’t prepared for the torrent …

Back from the brink: sex and grieving

CAREY AND I had been laughing together for four years when we made the big commitment. She was fun, active, smart and compassionate. I loved her, so marrying her was easy. Kids came along and, as I had expected, she was the kind of mum that read stories at bedtime, put ‘I love you’ notes …

Five steps to successful polyamory

SO YOU AND your squeeze have had the talk. You’ve decided to open up your relationship. Time to hit the local bar/kink party/games night, and soon you and your sweetie will be snuggling up with a hot bisexual babe. Right? Not quite. Changing your relationship structure always comes with surprises. If you consider the tips …

Aussie short film depicts love we can all relate to

A SHORT FILM shot in Sydney by photographer Elvis di Fazio for the closing of the 2014 Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras 2014 has recently been shared online. Marry Me was created to accompany an Australian performance of Macklemore’s song ‘Same Love‘, by Adam George, Nathan Mahone and Marcia Hines. The film depicts the everyday experiences …

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