Category Archive: kink

How to have really good sex: Sydney’s forward-thinking festival

Want to learn erotic yoga, navigate non-traditional relationships, or sensually tie up the babe you met on New Years Eve? You might want to try Sydney’s Festival of Really Good Sex. Entering its fifth year, the festival promises five days of interactive workshops, films and discussions spanning topics like Mindfulness, Physicality, Creativity and Imagination, Movement and …

Archer Asks: Sex Nerd, Sandra Daugherty

Sandra Daugherty is a podcasting, workshop-teaching, sexual-shame-fighting “sex nerd” based in Los Angeles, California. After just missing her in L.A., Amanda Bloom got her on the phone to find out about what’s new and exciting in the world of sex, gender, relationships, and general sex nerdery. Find Daugherty’s podcast, Sex Nerd Sandra, on Nerdist and …

Dance, magic, dance: Exploring the strong link between dance and sexuality

Our Puritan forebears got a lot of things wrong. But they got one thing right: dancing really does lead to sex. For several decades of my life, I looked to sadomasochism as my source of embodied ecstatic practice. Once or twice a week, I’d go to a public dungeon where I would spank or get …

BDSM: inside the kinky lifestyle

The wildly varied world of BDSM can provide a safe space to communicate, play, and release the pressures of everyday life. At pre-dawn on a Monday morning more than 20 years ago, two friends and I sped towards a four-hour cleaning job that had to be finished before our uni classes started. We’d been out. …

Welcome to fetish

Welcome to fetish

Over the past couple of years, more than any other time in my adult life, I’ve made some important discoveries about my sexuality. This period has been marked by an increased interest in new and different forms of sex. It has been marked by my entry into what I call the ‘fetish life’. I am …

‘BDSM does not equal abuse’: a response

This article is a response to BDSM not welcome at Rad Sex + Consent Week, published recently on Archer. I was to be the facilitator of the BDSM101 workshop which was cancelled at Monash Rad Sex + Consent Week (RSC) this year. I’ve run BDSM101 at Melbourne Uni RSC for the last two years, and …

BDSM not welcome at Rad Sex and Consent Week

Rad Sex and Consent Week is supposed to be about the sex-ed that you never got at school. It runs across the country at universities every year in first semester, and encourages discussion and a non-judgemental environment for sex talk. A workshop called ‘BDSM 101’ was scheduled to run as part of this year’s agenda, …

Shibari: Japanese erotic rope art

I’m nervous. I always get nervous. It’s dark and the music thumps. People chatter but I can’t see the crowd through the spotlights. He puts his hands on my hips and the world falls quiet. He stands behind me, kisses my neck and pulls me into him, hands behind my back. He catches my wrists …

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